Being married to your best friend is great but marriage is never a walk in the park for anyone. Studies show that a couples marital satisfaction is at it's highest during the honeymoon & after that it slowly declines. Researchers also believe that if you make it through the first 4 years of marriage you have passed the "divorce danger zone". Personally I believe that if you want a strong, long, & healthy relationship with your spouse it takes work. My husband & I are going on our 6th year of marriage & we have had our ups & down just like everyone else but we love each other, have a strong relationship, & most importantly . . . we are happy together. These are the 12 things we feel work best for us & have keep us in a happy marriage.
Communication is key. Simply talk to your spouse everyday & more importantly, listen.
Think of how you felt dating each other, it was the little things that made you fall in love with your spouse. The sweet little actions like holding hands, kisses, & hugs. Show your spouse you love them through the way you act.
3. Always say " I love you "
Before you leave for work, before you hang up the phone, or before you go to bed simply tell your spouse you love them. Saying it all the time reminds both of you of your feelings towards each other & it will bring you closer.
There will always be days where it's hard to get along with your spouse. But staying angry will only build resentment towards each other. It's okay to be the first one to say your sorry. There's no shame in admitting you got angry over something small. Remember, never go to bed angry at one another.
Now that your married doesn't mean that the dating has to stop. Go out together & enjoy each others company. Fall in love with each other all over again.
6. Have each others backs
Be strong for each other & willing to sacrifice anything for your spouse. Just as you want your spouse to have your back in any given situation you have to be willing to do the same. Even if it's not always easy.
7. Keep it fresh in the bedroom
It goes without saying, don't let your sex life get boring. Stay connected to each other & spice it up.
8. You can't change your spouse
The things you once thought were cute about your spouse are now somewhat annoying. But you can't change each other, so stop trying & just embrace one another's imperfections.
9. Share a hobby
Find something that both of you enjoy doing together, like working out together, or traveling. Whatever it may be, do it as often as possible.
10. Don't fight in front of people
There is nothing more awkward that watching a couple fight in public, having them air out each others dirty laundry for everyone else to hear. It's ok to fight, everyone does it, but doing it in private makes forgiving each other a whole lot easier.
11. Encourage one another
Compliment & magnify your spouses strengths & good qualities. Let them know the things you adore about them.
12. Praise each others accomplishments
Your spouses victories are also your own, having the mindset that you & your spouse are as one.
" A strong marriage requires two people who choose to LOVE each other even on those days when they struggle to like each other " - Dave Willis
I hope this helps all you married couples out there fighting for your marriage, leave a comment below to let me know if this was insightful for you.